Remember, They’re Family: You Don’t Have to Like Them
Family is important, but there’s no rule that says you have to like or get along with everyone you’re related to. If you do, you’re very lucky, but just being related to someone doesn’t automatically mean the two of you will get along in every situation, share the same views, or even enjoy each other’s company. The holidays—that time of year when everyone is stuck together no matter what—is a particularly trying time when you know that family members you don’t get along with will be present.
It’s a romantic to assume you can push through the stress and irritation at the Thanksgiving dinner table to suddenly become close with a family member you can’t stand. If it happens, you’re lucky, but it’s unlikely. Be kind, respectful, and cordial, but don’t force yourself to spend extended periods with someone you dislike just because you “feel like you should.” Be assertive enough to excuse yourself from awkward conversations, and choose to spend your time with family members you enjoy instead. In the end, you’ll have a happier, healthier, stress-free holiday with family.
This is what I just read in a lifehacker article whose author named Alan Henry. When I saw it for the first time, I thought it was something wrong with my eyes. How could anyone suggest that you don’t have to like a family member? We have always been taught to be nice to our family members, be tolerant and try to figure out how to get along with them. But if you let yourself calm down and think it again, you may find it get some sense.
We all have different experience, ideas and perspective, if we can reach an agreement, we’re just lucky, if we cannot, so what? You should know it is unlikely beforehand. Instead of making yourself miserable to deal with such stuff, why not just admit it and stick your way. Family members are blood-bonded, that’s true…and that’s all. If your ever sincerely tried to be a reasonable person and they still don’t give some positive responds, then let it go. Like the article said, “Be kind, respectful, and cordial, but don’t force yourself to spend extended periods with someone you dislike just because you ‘feel like you should'”.